My kids never cease to confuse me with their reactions. They don't react the way I expect them to. Today for example, I ordered my kids a flat daddy about 4 months ago and was approved to get a free one a month ago. So, I sent in the picture of Ian and today, the blown up picture came in the mail. It has an adhesive backing to it and can be put on the wall or mounted to a foam board. Then you can cut around it to get the background out of it. I put our flat daddy on a foam board and then realized I didn't have an Exacto knife to cut it out. Luckily a friend of mine saved the day and let me borrow one.
Once I got it cut out, my oldest girls really seemed to love it. At first it startled them because it is so life-sized that it looked like he was really sitting at the table where I had it propped up at. Later that night, my youngest daughter wanted to have daddy sitting at the table with us. That is when the bizarre reaction happened. My son got really upset. He started crying and telling us he didn't want the flat daddy sitting at the table. Even though I thought that the kids would love having the flat daddy to carry around and have him with us, Daniel was adamant about not having it around. He just cried and screamed that it wasn't daddy and that daddy was gone. I tried to explain to him that it was like his daddy doll, but bigger. That we had it so we could feel like daddy was here and be able to give a hug to him whenever he wanted. That didn't help. He just kept going on and on about daddy not being here and that daddy was not coming back. That was hard. I sat and talked to him for a few minutes about the fact that daddy was coming back and that he would be back this summer. Daniel just doesn't understand time. He told me he knows daddy is coming home, but that it would be forever before he was here again.
I got him to calm down a bit and he was okay with the flat daddy for dinner. For the rest of the night he was good and even took the flat daddy upstairs to his room. So, we will have to see what this flat daddy will do for him. Tonight though, at least I got a glimpse of what he is really thinking and feeling and I was able to talk to him about it. Now I know what I need to continue to work on with him and what his worries are. That has to count for something, progress even in it's smallest form.
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