Day 205: Give me the bad day, not him

1/12/12

In most ways I would rather have a bad day than for my husband to be having a bad day. The only thing I can do when he has a bad day is to keep reaffirming him. I can only tell him how amazing he is, how much we all love him, and how much he is missed. I tell him that no matter what I am here for him and that we will make it through together.

Today was one of those days that I wished it was me having the bad day. My day had been going pretty well, and my husband called me and told me he needed to talk to me about something important. I can't go into it, and he really couldn't either, but long story short, he had a bad day and was very upset with himself. He is hard on himself, and doesn't give himself an ounce of He was mad at himself, worried, and felt like he was letting people down. With what he told me, it wasn't as bad as he thought it was, but because I am not military, my opinion on that was not as reliable. So, instead, I just had to tell him that it would all be okay and to look at the positive. I also told him to stop thinking about it for now, and to get some rest.

We will see if he takes my advice, but at least he knows that I love him and support him. It is always important for a soldier, especially my soldier, to know that the people he loves are proud of him, love him and support him. It is what helps him get through, much like it is what helps get me through when he or my mom says it to me. It is human nature to want to hear it, but even more important during high stress times like this deployment.